We all know the trials and tribulations connected with present day air travel. We're reminded every time we pick up a newspaper, watch the news and listen to the radio.

We all know about the higher fares, extra baggage fees, airline labor wars, attempted bomb plots, fewer flights, safety concerns with air-traffic controllers, bird strikes, over crowded flights, rude behavior - it's enough to make you, well, afraid to fly.

But here's the good news. If you do have a fear of flying, ( it is the second leading phobia in the United States, with over 25-million of us) you can change that.

You may not be able to change how the FCC or the airlines conduct business, but you can change your fear of flying.

We've all been there. That uncomfortable feeling when we experience turbulence or thunderstorms or a sudden thump - and we're 35,000 feet in the air with no control at all.

Well, stop worrying!

The chances of being killed in an airplane crash are one in 11-million while flying domestically and one in 44-million if you fly internationally.

Right now is the safest period in U.S. aviation history. There are more than 67-million domestic flights each year, and only one commercial flight crashed in over 3-years. (That was the February 2009 Colgan Air accident that killed 50 people near Buffalo, NY. ) These numbers are stunning. And since our top fear "aviophobia or aerophobia" is crashing, the numbers are overwhelmingly in our favor of that not happening.

There are excellent fear of flying resources available. Of course the internet is overloaded with instant advice and solutions, but I like the convenience of a good "self-help" book that you can bring onboard the plane and refer to when needed. Two of my favorites include - "Real Life Fearful Flyer's Stories" by Capt. Ron Nielsen and "Flying Fear Free" by Dr. Sandra Pollino. I have interviewed both authors and have taken their expert advice when I have found myself feeling anxious or nervous while flying. Knowing and being familiar with airline safety stats and aviation facts works for me. It calms me down immediately.

There is so much to see and do in this great big glorious world of ours. Don't let your fear of flying stop you and your family from experiencing domestic or international travel memories. Summer vacations are right around the corner - get out there and enjoy…you deserve it!

Favorite Fear of Flying Tips -

* Learn aviation safety statistics and facts.

* Trust the airline industry. The FAA insures safe and secure flying by constant and ongoing - inspecting, testing, certifying and monitoring the people who work in the safety related areas of aviation. Safety is no accident. There are no "maybes" when it comes to air safety.

* When boarding the plane, mention to the flight attendant that you get a bit nervous and ask if you can talk to a pilot. Pilots are excellent at calming your fears and always happy to reassure you. (While flying home from Florida a few weeks ago the person next to me said she was up all night due to her flying fears and hadn't flown in several years. Before being seated she talked to the pilots in the cockpit, was calmed down and slept the entire flight.)

* Turbulence is normal. Nobody likes it, but if you fly a lot you're probably going to feel it. (A Captain once told me to think of turbulence the same way as driving over a bumpy road. I do and it doesn't bother me at all.) * Desensitize yourself before flying. Many fearful flyers go to a busy airport just to watch all the planes takeoff and land. After a while it becomes routine and you begin to feel comfortable with the whole process.

* Practice breathing and relaxation exercises. Take slow, deep breaths through your nose. Fill your lungs from the bottom up. Pause, and then exhale slowly. Do this a couple times and you'll feel better - guaranteed.

* Focus on the positive. Think about your upcoming wonderful vacation and relaxing days off work. Occupy your mind with a good book or magazine, listen to "soothing" music or strike up a conversation.

* And finally, don't be embarrassed. Fearful flyers tend to be perfectionists, intelligent and successful - so you're in good company.

SUMMER FLYING TIPS -

* If you haven't made your airline reservations, do it now. Experts predict higher airfares and less flights, especially to Europe, June thru August.
* Don't assume flying from Harrisburg (HIA) is going to be more expensive. Check them out first and then compare your total cost - including gas, driving time, parking, hotel if needed, meals, etc. For my money, nothing is more convenient or easy-to-manage than HIA. (www.flyhia.com)
* Know what and how to pack (For a guideline go to www.tsa.gov)
* To feel less cramped onboard, opt for an aisle seat.
* Check flight status and check in online the night before your flight if possible.
* Pack an organized carry-on bag. Bring all prescription medicine and an extra pair of eyeglasses.
* Have your documents (boarding pass, passport) easily and readily available.
* Wear slip-on shoes (easy on & off for screening)
* Arrive on time. Better yet, arrive early. (2 hours domestic, 3 hours international)
* Bring something to entertain yourself (and your kids)-books, magazines, coloring books, portable DVD player with headphones, etc (Quiet entertainment.)
* When in doubt, leave it out. Pack as light as you can.
* Think before you speak. Rude and belligerent behavior will not be tolerated and will result in delays.
* Before traveling abroad be sure to contact your credit card company and advise them on your upcoming travel plans.
* If you don't have a passport, get one. (www.passport.gov)
* Some countries require that your passport be valid for six months following your return date. Double-check with your travel agent.